Unveil your Romantic Side

Relationships are a little like glaciers; under various pressures, they're always moving and changing, gathering all sorts of debris. But after some time, they move so slowly, it's easy to forget they're there, particularly when you live together. To use a more familiar metaphor, one day your relationship is a wild ride, all loops and corkscrews, and then, out of nowhere, it's mellowed and straightened out. Actually, it's worse than that. It's stagnating. Hey, it happens, and you're not the only one. Relationships require management, like anything else in your life that's as big and complex. One way is to inject a little romance. Now, depending on your definition, you may have to redefine romance a little. It shouldn't always have a direct purpose; in other words, imagine romance as neither a means nor an end. Try to imagine it as something you do for your partner simply because you love them. With all that in mind, the home you share with your partner presents a bunch of romantic opportunities to reignite that stagnating relationship. The following suggestions, centred around the element of surprise, should get you started. In devising your own, plan what you do around your partner's unique tastes. You know them the best, so you would know, for example, that they love chocolate but are currently dieting, or that they hate flowers. Use your inside information. GIVE YOUR PARTNER A MASSAGEYour partner comes home from a horrendous day at work - exhausted and even a little bad-tempered. So what do you do? Offer to give a massage. Using aromatherapy oils, focus on their neck and back, the areas that tend to tense up under stress and cause aches and pains. You can create the mood by dimming the lights and lighting candles; it creates a more relaxing and romantic environment. BRING THEM BREAKFAST IN BEDA classic gesture, breakfast in bed is the proverbial "oldie but goodie." Get up early on a Saturday or Sunday morning and prepare breakfast just the way your partner likes it, with toast, fresh fruit, tea, idlis or whatever. Then surprise them by serving it in bed. Another great way to start the day.WRITE ROMANTIC NOTESThe love letter or love note is an amazing thing; little effort is required to write your partner one, and yet you can express so much. So write them a few creative, unique love notes and leave them in unexpected places around the house. For example, in the morning, tape one to the bathroom mirror or to the on top of the newspaper. ORDER IN Order in for dinner and have it waiting for your partner when they get home. Create a romantic setting by recreating a restaurant feel on the dining room table or in the balcony, complete with plates, silverware and cloth napkins. For an extra romantic touch, add candles and a small vase with some flowers. Learn how to set a formal table and surprise your partner with your impeccable taste. Remember: the little details matter most. ENJOY THE COOL WINTERSIn the winter, get a fire going on your rooftop (if your society gives you the access). Then, set up some pillows and blankets, and uncork a bottle of wine. If you want to take things to the next level, have a romantic dinner sitting in front of that otherwise uneventful bonfire.SOME TLC FOR THE FEETBad day or not, if your partner's been running around, their feet are probably sore. Prepare a foot bath for them and follow it up with a short foot massage. If you're a guy, you could even offer to paint her toenails. It might be best to make that last part spontaneous. If, for example, she's planning to do it herself, you can offer your services. You'll be surprised at how romantic -- even erotic -- it can be. BUY HER LINGERIELingerie is win-win. Your girl feels sexy and attractive wearing it, and the benefits for you go without saying. So buy her some nice lingerie and lay it out on the bed for her to find. Think about what she likes, what she'll feel good in, then combine that with your own tastes. DRAW THEM A BATH The bathtub or a shower is one of the most romantic household locales. Ensure that it is clean, then draw them a hot bath and place aroma oils, lufa, and other exotic bath accessories in the bathroom for your partner to discover. If all goes well, they'll invite you to join them. UP THE ROMANCE All these romantic gestures will make your lover happy. If you get rewarded in the process, so much the better, but making those rewards your sole motivation can only lead to disappointment. Just try to do it for them, and see what happens; it will probably come back to you.
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